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If You Can't Avoid Toxic People: Neutralize Their Negativity
When there are toxic, hostile people in your life, best we avoid them, best we disengage when we find ourselves victimized by them. But if we can't avoid them, if we can't disengage from them, best we find ways to neutralize their negativity with our mind. http://amzn.to/v4Xx1q
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Why The Law of Attraction Doesn't Work For Most People.mp4
The Law of Attraction doesn't work for most people because despite what they consciously strive for, despite what thoughts they keep in the forefront of their conscious mind, despite all their proactivity, practice, persistence and perseverance, they have an unconscious program of self-sabotage that is running the game and keeping all of life's goodies that they desire at arm's length. The solution to this problem is to eliminate the self-sabotaging behaviors by eliminating what's causing them: unconscious guilt, shame, and self-loathing. How do we do this? By loving and forgiving ourselves. How do we do this? By loving and forgiving others. How do we do this? By consciously focusing on acceptance, tolerance, generosity, graciousness, gratitude, compassion, forgiveness, estimable acts of kindness and service to others. As we engage in these behaviors as best we can, unconditionally and without exception, every day and in every way possible, we send the message to our subconscious mind that we are good enough, that we are worthy of reward not punishment, and our subconscious mind then puts an end to the inner critic that influences us to sabotage ourselves, and it directs the Law of Attraction to work for us rather than against us, and we begin to manifest the life we desire. http://amzn.to/v4Xx1q
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How To Let Go Of Ego, Anger & Negativity
Fully appreciate it is in your best interest to do so. Replace fear, judgment and anger with compassion, acceptance and forgiveness. Over and over and over again. Until it becomes a habit.
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People Pleasers, Doormats & Self Esteem
It's nice to want to please people but if it is done excessively and to such a degree that you are taken advantage of and your own needs aren't being met, then it's dysfunctional and needs to stop. By understanding how you became this way, you can undo the negative self-definition and embrace your authenticity.
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How To Overcome Analysis Paralysis
Sometimes we think too much. We over-analyze to the point where we paralyze ourselves with doubts and we end up doing nothing for fear of making the wrong decision. At some point we've got to have faith in our ability to deal with the choices we make, even when the outcomes aren't what we hoped for or expected... If you liked this video, check out my book, "Forgive To Win!" at: http://amzn.to/v4Xx1q
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The Doctor Is Within - How To Heal Yourself
We have all that we need to heal ourselves on the physical, emotional, spiritual and material planes. And that is to express truth, compassion and calm in all aspects of our lives. Consistently. Persistently. Without conditions and without exceptions.... If you like this video, check out my book, "Forgive To Win!" at: http://amzn.to/v4Xx1q
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Projection Is A Defense Mechanism To Avoid Taking Responsibility
We tend to judge others harshly for things that we ourselves do. Rather than hold up a mirror to ourselves and acknowledge our faults, we deny we're the problem and point the finger at others.
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Psychosomatic Illness Is About Your Mind Attacking Your Body
Unconscious thoughts are converted into physical symptoms. What you think matters!
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How To Deal With High-Conflict People
High-conflict people are very difficult to deal with because they tend to be arrogant, full of ego, argumentative, aggressive, unwilling to admit when they're wrong, very willing to admit that we're the problem, not them. So how do we approach these people to try to navigate our needs? We start with empathy, attention and respect, regardless of whether or not we feel they deserve them.
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Red Flags In Relationships: Pay Attention
At the beginning of a relationship we are filled with so much infatuation and hope, we ignore the red flags and further invest in the relationship which may ultimately not be in our best interests.
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Why We Don't Set and Maintain Boundaries With Abusive People In Our Lives
Many of us don't set and maintain boundaries with abusive people in our lives because we fear that rather than cooperate with what we are asking of them, they will choose to end the relationship, which then brings up issues of abandonment within us which generates anxiety and perhaps depression as well which we fear we will not be able to deal with. Consequently, the abuse continues, our emotional needs continue to be unmet, and we experience ongoing anger, resentment, and dissatisfaction.
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Avoid Toxic People, Places and Circumstances
Be vigilant as to where you go and who you spend your time with. They all contribute to the reality you manifest.
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How To Effectively Manage Emotions, Get Off Psychiatric Drugs, and Create The Life You Want
If it's true that most people take psychiatric medications because of difficulties regulating their emotions, anxieties and impulses, then when they are taught skills to effectively self-regulate, they will no longer need to depend upon and can safely taper themselves off their psychiatric medications. The Wellness Forum's new program, "Emotional Wellness 101," was specifically designed for this purpose. It can also be used to great benefit by people who are not on psychiatric medications but are dissatisfied with their lives and their relationships. With emotional wellness skills, people can effectively manage their emotional life, end self-sabotaging behaviors, and achieve sustainable happiness. Dr. Pam Popper's interview with Walter E. Jacobson MD, discusses "Emotional Wellness 101" in more detail: http://www.wellnessforum.com/Audio/DrPopperInterviewDrWJacobson20130117.mp3 For more information: [email protected]
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Accept What You Can't Change and Stop Complaining
The Serenity Prayer reminds us to accept the things we cannot change, to have the courage to change the things we can, and to have the wisdom to know the difference. And I have added that when you are accepting the things you can't change, don't complain about it. Complaining is actually a demonstration that you are not in acceptance, and only makes everything worse.
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Is There A Healthy Way To Deal With A Compulsive Liar?
The healthiest way to deal with a compulsive liar is to have nothing to do with them. But if that is not possible, the next best thing is to keep a safe distance from that person in your head. That means: Do not trust them. Do not assume they are telling you the truth. As Ronald Reagan once said, "Trust but verify."
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How To Overcome Feelings Related To Betrayal.mp4
The best way to overcome feelings related to betrayal is to recognize that harboring negative feelings towards others, regardless of how they have behaved, is a betrayal of yourself, your Higher Self, your Spirit, your Soul. It is our mission here to discover the meaning and power of love and we do that by letting go of judgment and anger, replacing them with acceptance and forgiveness. Mourn the loss of a relationship damaged by betrayal, release the anger, the resentment, the desire for vengeance, find a way to forgive for your own peace of mind.
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How To Treat Social Anxiety
The treatment for social anxiety includes behavioral desensitization techniques as well as cognitive therapy techniques. Together, with practice and persistence, this condition can be managed effectively without medications.
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Dealing With Denial In Yourself And Others
On one level, denial is an unconscious defense mechanism to discharge anxiety. On another level, however, it's a choice. A mind game we're playing with ourselves.
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Relationships - You've Got To Know When To Fold 'Em
Many of us stay in relationships way too long, way past the point where there is any real hope that things will change for the better and provide us with the satisfying, sustainable relationship that we desire. It is often the fear of loneliness that keeps us in the relationship. Perhaps the dread of having to start the process over again of searching for and finding a loving partner. As the red flags in the relationship pile up, we sweep them under the rug. Perhaps we have outbursts of anger on a regular basis. Perhaps we have resentments simmering below the surface. Either way, we're not happy. And perhaps we could be if we chose to cut our losses and move on. Not an easy decision to make but perhaps a worthwhile one in the long run.
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Let Go Of Resentments and Thoughts of Vengeance
Hanging onto resentments, vengeance, anger and unforgiveness hurt you more than those who have victimized you. Free yourself from the emotional baggage of the past and live in the present moment with joy, gratitude, and inner peace.
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Don't Ignore Red Flags In Relationships
Pay attention to the red flags in relationships. If you have a sense, an intuition that something isn't right, that the answers you're getting don't really make sense, don't sweep your suspicions under the rug. Face the music. Confront your fears. Confront your red flags. Ask questions. Because if you don't, then the red flags are likely to reveal themselves down the the road after you have invested a great deal of yourself, your time, and your resources in an ultimately unsatisfying and unsustainable relationship.
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Stop Crazy-Making Thoughts and Catastrophic Thinking
We make ourselves crazy by indulging crazy-making thoughts. We make ourselves anxious and terrified by inventing a cascade of ever-increasingly frightening future possibilities that are extremely unlikely to happen and then reacting to them as if they are certain to happen and that we will be helpless to deal with them. Point being: We have a choice to terrorize ourselves with our thoughts, to be a victim of our thoughts, to be controlled by our thoughts -- OR-- to control our thoughts and discard those that we do not need to think about or fear.
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The Power of Forgiveness: How To Forgive Someone Who Keeps Abusing You
When someone keeps abusing you and you are not able to eliminate that person from your life, you first remember that you forgive others for your own peace of mind. And then you find ways to see them differently so as to make it easier for you to forgive them.
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What Does Smiling Have To Do With The Law of Attraction and Self Sabotage?
The Law of Attraction is essentially a request to the universe for help. If we send that request with a smile, we are increasing our potential to attract the cooperation and support of others. If we send that request with a frown, we are sending a mixed message and are, therefore, sabotaging our efforts. Best that our thoughts, our facial expressions, our body language, our words and our deeds all reflect our desire and commitment to the better life we are hoping to manifest.
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Disengage From The Drama Of Your Life.  Set Boundaries
Many of us seem to thrive on drama despite the fact that the end result is just about always unpleasant in one way or another. If we wish to eliminate the drama caused by others or ourselves, we need to set boundaries with others and ourselves, and maintain them. If we do this consistently, we send the message to others and ourselves that we are serious about the changes we want in our lives and the elimination of the drama and the chaos. The end result is usually emotional stability, happiness, inner peace, better health, and more successful, sustainable relationships.
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It's Exhausting Caring About What Other People Think Of Us
Many of us do not have a solid sense of self, such that when the world smiles at us we feel good, when the world frowns at us we feel bad. This makes us victims of the external world. This puts our personal power in the hands of others rather than in our own hands where it belongs. Best we not let undue praise or criticism fool us, diminish us or get in the way of us feeling good about ourselves. Regardless of other people's opinions and attitudes towards us, we know who we are.
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What If Everyone Is a Mirror? What If Life Is A Grand Illusion?
What if we are collectively projecting our unconscious beliefs onto the "screen" we call the universe, and then believing that our projections are reality and are independent of the thoughts in our mind?
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Five Things You Can Do Today To Change Your Life
Make a commitment to truth, compassion, calm, acceptance and forgiveness. Put these into practice as best you can every day, unconditionally and without exceptions. If you do this consistently: happiness, health, relationships and material success will all improve.
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How To Let Go Of Victimhood - Forgive Others For Your Own Peace Of Mind
When we hang onto our anger, our hurt, our fear, our victimhood, we are sentencing ourselves to a lifetime of emotional pain. When we find a way to forgive others, we free ourselves from that emotional prison. #ForgiveToWin
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Don't Isolate. Quiet Your Mind. Conquer Your Ego
When we isolate from others we are avoiding dealing with our problems and we are reinforcing our dysfunctional view of ourselves and our world. Best to engage in the world and learn how to effectively navigate the slings and arrows. Best to quiet our mind, free it of the noise tsunami that bombards us 24/7. Best to conquer our ego which thinks it's us against them, kill or be killed.
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Why Do I Advise People To Extend Love To Toxic People?
A number of people have challenged the idea of extending love to toxic people, narcissists, etc, claiming that these people can't change and you're only inviting more toxicity and pain. Let me clarify that we extend love to others, we forgive others, not to change them but to free ourselves from the emotional bondage that goes with hanging onto anger, resentments, grievances, etc. We forgive others for our own peace of mind. It doesn't mean we have to hang around them, tolerate them, or have them in our lives to any degree. Extending love to others can be a very transformative experience for all concerned. But the bottom line is this: Our happiness, our inner peace are a consequence of the choices we make. And one of those choices is to do the best we can to forgive, love and accept others unconditionally and despite how they are behaving. It's a tall order. It's something we should aspire to. It is the formula for inner peace and... eventually.... world peace.
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The Forgiveness Diet - Anger Hurts, Forgiveness Heals
Letting go of anger, grievances, resentments and other attack thoughts is a key component of the Forgiveness Diet. When we release these negative emotions and replace them with thoughts of acceptance, tolerance, compassion and forgiveness, we esteem ourselves, we eliminate self-sabotaging behaviors, and our entire life experience gets better. http://bit.ly/11iyBul
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Why We Are Irritable and What We Can Do About It
There are many things that can cause us to be irritable: Low blood sugar. Stress. Chronic pain. Depression, Anxiety. Our need to be in control. And many other things. When we are irritable, we tend to take it out on others and this abuse can lead to relationships failing. Consequently, it behooves us to recognize when we are irritable and do the best we can to address the causes and control our irritation so it does not leak out onto other people.
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The Power Of Self-Esteem
When we have sufficient self-esteem our ego is neither inflated by adulation nor threatened by minimization from others. This leads to us making wise, empowering decisions in our lives.
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How To Succeed - Two Steps Forward, One Step Back
Don't get discouraged and demoralized when you fall off your path. Two steps forward, one step back is the natural progression of accomplishment and success. When you fall off your bicycle, don't beat yourself up with guilt and shame. Just jump back on the bicycle and start pedaling again. And you'll succeed at last.
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The Ultimate Prosperity Principle
An overview of Forgive To Win!'s 90-Day Forgiveness Diet: a daily regimen of cognitive tools and spiritual techniques to eliminate self-sabotaging behaviors getting in the way of one's happiness, health, prosperity and success. Order your copy of Forgive To Win! today at: http://amzn.to/v4Xx1q
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Love Is Action - Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Actions speak louder than words. It is not enough to tell someone you love them. You need to show it. They need to know it. By your actions will they know it. By your actions will your their love for you grow and your relationships thrive.
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Feelings Aren't Facts: Don't Make Assumptions and Act On Them
When someone says something and we feel they are attacking us, we assume the feeling is a fact, we get defensive and angry, we attack back. But oftentimes the feeling is irrational, it's based on our insecurities, our low self-esteem, and if we take the time to not react, to look at the data, we may discover that we are misinterpreting, overreacting, catastrophizing, and that we don't need to go there. If we make this choice, we are happier, our relationships are healthier, our lives get better.
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Respecting The Boundaries Of Others
It is very common for people to set boundaries with others. What is equally common is people not respecting those boundaries. This is a big mistake. Despite our need for closure, for resolving conflicts immediately, it is best that we accept the boundaries others place upon us if we want our relationships to thrive, because when we breach boundaries set by others it creates resentments and hostilities that often lead to the total breakdown of those relationships.
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Beware of Your "Outer Critics" As Well As Your Inner Critic
Besides learning how to neutralize our Inner Critic who tells us that we're worthless and not good enough, and that nothing's going to work out so why bother trying, best we learn how to recognize and neutralize those people in our lives who subtly try to sabotage our efforts to improve ourselves and manifest our dreams.
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Why Hating Is Bad For You
To hate anything Is a mistake. Hate reduces clarity, increases impulsivity, and blocks the flow of wisdom from your Higher Self.
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Defense Mechanisms Damage Relationships
Defense mechanisms like denial, displacement, projection. and rationalization damage relationships and make it difficult to repair them because they interfere with effective communication. Gaining insight into the ways our unconscious defense mechanisms rule our perceptions, thoughts, feelings and behaviors allows us to be more objective and honest in our discourse with others, the end result being greater understanding, compassion and healing.
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Letting Go Of Baggage
Letting go of baggage is a choice. First, you choose to recognize your baggage rather than be in denial about it. Second, you choose to recognize that you have the power to let go of your baggage and make better choices. Third, you make better choices. Fourth, you repeatedly, consistently, persistently make those better choices until you have extinguished your self-destructive self-definitions and replaced them with healthier ones.
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Catastrophic Thinking Isn't Thinking. It's Terrorizing Ourselves.
We terrorize ourselves with our fear thoughts. We exaggerate them and build on them to the point of actually believing they're likely to happen (which they usually aren't) and then we react with intense fear, panic, desperation, demoralization, etc. in anticipation of them happening. Best not to react to terrible things until they are actually happening. Prepare for the worst but don't live in perpetual daily dread of the future. Be here now. Find happiness today despite life's difficulties.
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Stop Interrupting.
Interrupting people is a feeble form of communication that breeds anger, resentments, and misunderstandings. Consequently, it is counterproductive to the resolution of conflicts. Additionally, interrupting is incredibly rude and invalidating. Consequently, it behooves us to show respect, tolerance, and patience to those we disagree with, to not interrupt them, and then to calmly counterpoint those issues.
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Rules Of Engagement. How To Behave In Arguments
Most relationships fail because one or both partners have poor communication skills. Issues are never adequately resolved, resentments build up over time, and eventually one of the two partners finally accepts the fact that the relationship is just not going to work and they exit stage left. Or they stay together in a love-hate relationship, longing for something better but not believing it's possible. Guess what? It is possible. Both of those scenarios of failed relationships are unnecessary.There are techniques that can be learned as to how to communicate effectively, how to navigate arguments in a healthy way, and how to resolve conflicts and negotiate differences so everyone's needs are met and no one is diminished in the process. Why settle for anything less than a loving, satisfying, sustainable relationship? You deserve it and you can make it happen.
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Why Most Relationships Fail
Most relationships fail because when they are in need of repair one or both partners refuse to let go of their resentments, their hurts and their harsh judgments of their partner, and so they see their partner as they were, not as they are now. This prevents healing. This prevents growth. We must let go of our past resentments and try to see our partner in a positive light despite how he or she has behaved in the past. Give the benefit of the doubt. Don't assume the worst. And, above all else, forgive past hurtful actions. Without forgiveness there can be no true reconciliation.
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How To Change - Honesty. Open Mindedness. Willingness.
Have the willingness to be honest and open minded. Practice being honest and open minded. Have faith in honesty being the best policy. And then watch your world get better. P.S. Faith can move mountains.
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Synchronicity and The Number 137
The theoretical physics Fine Structure Constant = 137. No one knows why. The Master Number of the Kaballah, the book of Jewish Mysticism = 137 as well. No one knows why. So what's it all about, Alfie?
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